He said he doesn't love her but feels bad about hurting her because she tells him about how much she loves him all the time.
That is total BS. If OW really loves him she would let him go and leave him alone. How can someone say that so selfishly and think that they can be taken seriously? True love is not selfish, infatuation is.
I mean think about it. All us LBS's that still love our spouses and are willing at some point to let them go, to find themselves even after having years of history together. That is true love, not selfishly going out after someone who is still in another R and putting our needs 1st. Too bad H can't see forest from the trees.
"Our life is what our thoughts make it."
Marcus Aurelius
