He wants to come back and said he wanted to break it off with the OW whether he and stay together or not. He said he doesn't love her but feels bad about hurting her because she tells him about how much she loves him all the time. I just said, "How do you think I feel after 4 years and two kids." So he says, "I'm sure you hate me." I said, "NO I love you VERY much."
If he's honestly going to be different I'd gladly get back with him. But there are real changes that have to be made. Does that mean that he and I couldn't "see each other" . . .
I don't think so.
I think I've gone past the point of no return with all of this though. Now that I've told people most of the whole story (like you all) . . . I'll never be able to take him back with guilt and regret and getting screamed out.
So yell if you want to . . . but know now it will help nothing.
I haven't been suckered back into the same sitch. I'm not even sure as to what's going on right now. I don't know. I feel like even if I wanted to . . I couldn't take him back because of my friends and family. I don't want to lose all of them . . BUT . . I'd love to work on my marriage.
I'm trying to stay objective . . BUT I honestly don't know what I should be doing? DO I give him ultimatums? (I.E. We can only get back together if you do X . . . ) I don't know . . WOW . . . soooo confused.
I don't want to shun him away into her arms . . . but I don't want to be stupid and go right back to the way everything was.
