Quote: My H just called . . he's crying and upset. Says he just doesn't want to hurt anyone. . . I think he'd love to come back to me but doesn't want to hurt her. He's as much as said that.
Oh. Boo Hoo for him.
Quote: I don't know what to do. Sit on the side lines and watch it play out. He said he wouldn't be getting remarried . . not after how badly he's screwed us up. I don't know what to think. He's going to call me again later . . . Hope all goes well. Any advice on how to proceed here?
Like GH said, if there is real abuse then be careful what you do.
You're not going to talk to him right away. He needs to go through whatever he's going through and THEN when he realizes what he's screwing up and ON HIS OWN ends it with OW and stays consistent for several weeks you, the new and improved Emily, will be in a position to decide if he is the person you really want.
He is not even close to being remorseful It's just guilt right now. Whatever he says will change tomorrow.
And you aren't ready either, you have a lot of work to do.
