emily: your right what i said was WRONG, im sorry for that. i just want you to understand that you need to work on yourself and not worry about what your h is doing. emily, i know this is hard, and yes i was very angry myself when i found out about my wifes affair. i just wish you would start working on yourself. i had the same things going thru my head about finding someone else, hating my wife for what she was doing, and yes i had to look at myself for the faults i made to my marriage. i then started working on them, (still am). emily we are not perfect, no one is, im not saying your husband is, he is messed up. and yes you do not deserve this, neither does your children, but you cant change that now, the only thing you can change is yourself. if he is not supporting you and your children, then he is a losier, but is he ever going to wake up and grow up and do that. i dont know and neither do you, so please, let him go, and all you anger towards him, it does not help your sitch any. i will tell you my wife was mean and cold to me for months, and i keep being mean and vindictive, and it got me nowhere, so i had to change. it was hard to see the distruction she was doing, but i started to be happy and she noticed. emily you came here to save your marriage, if that is truly what you still want, then you need to go to work doing just that. if not then you need to let him go, with out anger, if he is mean to you, just smile and go on about your business. he does not control your emotions, only you do. please emily, i do care about you, and your children, start acting as if towards him. you have just started your adulthood, make it a happy one. which i know you can, hell you came here, most people your age would just be pissed and not look for help, you did, to me that says alot about you. EMILY you are great, please start living it. again i am sorry for being so mean, i was just trying to wake you up and get you to listen to us. take care of your self emily, i will prey for you and your children, and yes even your husband.
