Quote: Make a list of what you can do for you and your babies right now. Do you really think anyone in their right mind would give Kevin custody? He would be on the road all of the time, etc
I know they won't give him full custody. I've had the kids and they don't like to move kids around too much in this state UNLESS there is serious problem (drugs abuse etc). I am worrying too far down the line. I am really worried about him trying to make them call the OW mom. They wouldn't see her only 4 days a month and no one could EVER take the place of me (who they live with ALL the time). . but that would be confusing for them. If down the line they came to like her and call her something other than her name . . fine . . but I'm worried he would force it.
God they are so little to have to go through something like this. For peat sake my H had let his hair grow for awhile and then between his last visit he shaved his head back down . . and Felina didn't recognize him. She ran away from him . . . How confusing for her. She can't even spend the night away or she doesn't sleep and she won't nap. She's used to our routine.
I understand he needs to see them . . but making kids this young live in two places seems crazy. Especially when he doesn't have his own place and all that crap.
OK . . I'm done talking about that now. I am worry too far down the line.
Get ready to yell at me.
I called and left him a message saying I was sorry for the things that I did. I told him if he started to miss the girls I could figure out away for him to see them on his way through . . I told him maybe I could arrange for him to see them at his Grandma's or something and he wouldn't have to see me if he didn't want to. I told him I was proud of him for what he is doing with his life . . and that I would love it if he would allow me to be part of his life as a friend at least.
That will give him something to think about. I will not call again. I just wanted him to hear those things. I wanted him to know that I am not a total B*tch. I wish he would come back and try at this marriage. I understand why he doesn't want to. The only time he ever came up to visit and wasn't with the OW was the time that I was in labor . . . I was totally out of it that time. Then he went back down and started back up their relationship. OH MY . . . It's all so confusing. . . and him going back to her is my fault. I don't appreciate him when he is trying . . . when I have him . . . and when I don't I want him back. He does the same thing with me.
I wish I could be the one to make him happy . . not her.
