emily:
i have not posted to you because i see you not listening to anyone here. i will give you my advice of what i think, and you will not listen to me either but i will give it to you anyway.
1)your husband was trying to work out his m with you, but you keep throwing his Affair up in his face and he got sick of it. i asked you last week how you would feel if HE did not want to work out your marriage and you didnt respond. well i guess i know your answer now, because he is angry that he tried and you would not let him work it out, so he went back to ow, who by the way is nice and caring to him. im sorry but YOU pushed him back to her arms.
2)you say all kinds of things about what other people are telling you, family, husband, friends, everybody in your life. WHAT DOES EMILY WANT!! does she want to be bitter, depressed, pissed, or does she really only want to be happy? emily you make that happen, only you.
3)it sounds like your husband has had many issues with you over the years, WHY, you need to look inside yourself and figure that out, do you think he plained on being that way when he said i do to you. im not saying this is all your fault, but find out what fault you played and fix it. your h is messed up, let him work on his issues, let him go, in a loving maner. love your friends and family, but love your ememys more.
4)do you want to go thru this pain again? if you dont fix yourself, then you will find another man and let him do all these things to you again and the saga continues. you sound like the type of person that is very needdy, and if you dont get it you lash out, you will be divorced many times, until you change.
emily listen to people who are or have been thru what you are going thru right now, you love your husband, and be honest if he came home right now and told you he loved you and wanted to be with you forever, YOU WOULD TAKE HIM BACK IN A HEART BEAT. change yourself, and maybe he will notice, or atleast you will find someone else in the future and could live a happy life with them, or dont change get divorced and remarry, get divorce and remarry ,ect,ect,ect, how many do you want to go thru before you wake up and change yourself and get what you want?