The point is that you don't know what Kevin is thinking or feeling!! You choose to believe the worst in every situation. I used to do that too, but now i choose to find the positive side in every situation. After a while your whole attitude will change and you won't even need to try and think of something positive it will just happen. You have yet to make any clear changes in your behavior, actions and words. If you remember clearly disregard at least 50% of what our spouses say, they are just as confused as us. Emily your family will learn to value your opinion and decisions if you start to stand up for yourself and they are able to see positive changes within you. But, once again it is up to you and only you.
