Thanks GH . . I'll work on that . . . but that's changing my prospective and that will be hard.
I can't choose between listening to you all here and listening to my family . . . from my familly I constantly hear I told you so. I can't tell you the amount of crap I had to listen to yesterday after I told them he was Ding me to marry the OW. If I don't listen to them they will be furious (much as you all are). I know you all care . . . but unfortunately you're not the ones I have to interact with daily if I want adult company. My sis made me SWEAR up and down that I would not let him see the kids . . . and that I would NOT sign anything until someone else had read it (good idea but she ment that someone else had to be her.)
I understand that it is my decision but it's a hard one to make. I feel like I am losing out either way. Either they'll be mad at me or you all will.
Isn't that what all this is about. That's why you all are so frustraighted? Because I won't give in and say that it's fine I'll let him walk in and out and see the kids when ever he chooses he's got a second. I'll let him turn them against me emotionally and I won't ever raise a finger to stop him because that's the high road. Me letting him see them is the high road . . and I want him to see them . . . but it needs to be on both of our terms NOT just his.
That's what I see as the problem here. Maybe I'm wrong and I've missed other advice . . . if so though I'm not seeing it.
