I am mad about the whole sitch. I understand that he needs to be allowed to see them . . . I just think right now we really need to take a break. Let him think about things and try out his "new life" He needs to take two months away from ALL of us. Then come and see the girls and see how he feels about things. I mean RB you suggested that we do that anyway . . . were you thinking that we wouldn't talk for two months and he would still see the kids? If so how?? If he ever even calls to see if he can see the girls *Felina's b-day is coming up Aug 10) then I'll tell him he can see them at an outside place (neutral ground if you will) like I would meet him at the park (I would definately have at least friend go with me) or he could go to my parents house to see them.
I also think that if he really wanted to be part of their lives and make sure they're OK he would at least buy a pack of diapers or some wipes or SOMETHING . . . since he is "hiding" out from paying the child support. I would mention this but it would only make him mad. He's so done with me . . that he's furious he'll even have to pay for the girls.
I don't know what to do. Trailer trash mentality or not . . . until he has himself straightened out. He will not see them. When he can be civil towards me and argee to see them on some of my terms. Then he can see them. As long as he is being a bullheaded jerk and trying to scare me into giving him exactly what he wants . . . I am not up for negotiating.
Is that wrong?
Also RB . . . what happened did in fact happen. He has been VERY physical. I think hitting someone in the face qualifies as abuse and the reasons behind it had nothing to do with me trying to out muscle him or stop him from going anywhere . . .he and I weren't even fighting. He was yelling at the dog (the one who's leg he broke) and he started hitting her . . . and I told him he needed to stop that she hadden't done anything wrong. So he turned it on me. It did happen. I'm sorry I brought it up though. I'm not taking it into the courts . . that was never my intention . . that's why when domestic relations asked if he was abusive my answer was no.
I don't want to drag through all that mess. If one of the girls ever complains or comes home with bruises . . then I'll lodge a complaint against him for child abuse. Him hitting me is different.
