OK, am I right in saying you see your options as:
1. Joint custody - where kids are f**ked up, as in your sister's case.

2. You alone have custody. Dad can only see them once in a while. - Kids are maybe alittle less f**ked up.
?

Or can you see this options too:

3. You take the high road. Make sure that your situation is not like your sister's. You stop the fighting NOW... and work towards making this D amicable so that one is not throwing the kids against the other. You realize that you and H cannot coexist as husband and wife, but you can coexist as Daddy and Mommy to your girls. They grow up knowing that they are loved. They are just a tiny bit screwed up (after all we all are ) Their relationships are good because of what you showed them with yours.

May it be eternal while it lasts. My sitch Me: 36 H:34 M: 5 years Bomb: 03/14/06