Moving Along OR Just Spinning My Wheels?

[Sandy_wants_to_try]

Hi Emily,
I'm reading a lot of "Man, look how hurt I am! I'll show him!" in these posts.

Are you sure you want your girls to grow up without a Daddy? He said he wont pay child support? Don't you WANT child support? If you do, you have to figure out a way to get it without getting into a legal battle.

Is there anyone you could count on to help you with the girls so you can think this through, on your own, at peace, so you you're acting and not reacting? I think you need some time to think about this properly.

You need to think of yourself but also of your girls.
It seems that what you're doing is slapping your hands clean and saying, "Ok, if you're going to be that way! So there!".

You're going to have to mature a lot and very quickly if you don't want this to be worse for you and your babies.

Don't take legal advice from friends or family. They mean well and there are plenty of horror stories out there, but there are many ways to do this. Think about what you want calmly and then get legal advice from a lawyer.

You're so young. Do you really want to take on the whole weight of bringing up two girls by yourself? I'd go for child support - ha! I'd even go for alimony.
But first, what I'd really do is see what I want for my life, now that I'm in this situation. Take some time - a breather, to think about yourself and what you want to do now.
Do you really want your M to be over?

Can you honestly say that you wont have regrets that you didn't wait a little longer or try a little more?
If so, good for you! Go for it, but protect yourself and your girls. Don't think about getting back at you H.. think about what you can do to make this as easy as it possibly can for you and your family.

Also, you think your H wont think of certain things - you think he wont get a lawyer? Really?

Good Luck!