Let me just say that I am NOT going to bring this up to the court system. I am going to try to get through this as pleasantly as possible. I don't a messy war. He's better equipt to deal with that . . . he has someone to love and support him. I don't, only myself. I don't feel ready to master all of this.
How long do D's normally take. If he files after the 28 when he gets "home" to her. . . then about how long until I see papers?
This is the wonderful advice that my sister gave me:
I have to make sure that my D papers say NOTHING about custody (don't think my H knows enough to put it in there anyway)
Then I wait and see if he's smart enough to figure out you have to domestic relations to file for custody. He's not going to want to do that because he doesn't want to pay child support. So as long as he's running he has no pot to piss in. She said her lawyer advised when she(my sis) was in this situation to NOT let him see the kids. So that's what I am doing. Until he has papers drawn up that say he has this amount of custody and he gets to see them at X time . . . he doesn't get to see them at all. In December when I got a lawyer she advised me to do the same thing. . . only then we tried to work it out. I'll follow that advice.
