Oh little one (baby girl) he thinks he has found someone who will make it all OK. I don't know if my advice is good or not BUT... you are the mother of his children , please don't threaten him, do not play a game of brinkmanship, this other person is giving him a whole lot of what he needs, ask yourself what she giving him and (if is sits well with you) give him the same thing.
He is lost and confused and has no idea what he needs to do (sorry guys but IMHO most men want to make us happy when they try and we are not happy they don't know what to do) They are not incontrol and we are not incontrol - we are all just learning. You have had one of this most troubled childhoods, what your mum said to you is not OK - she has her own issues, I have a step son, not my bioligical child BUT I would move heaven and earth to protect him, I have an adopted brother be he and I are closer then my biological brother.
I feel such empathy with you because you are so young, on the other hand I envy you because you are getting this so much younger then I did.
Feel your strength, despite what you think in his opinion you probably hold the power...even if you don't think you do!
We all think we need someone BUT you know what I want him in my life but I do not need him.
Feel your strength...it does not mean leeting go of him, it just means knowing who you are.
Heck you got AMCY giving you advice.
Baby girl, love your girls but don't exclude their Dad
Forget the OW you have the power ( even if you don't feel it) let yourself feel it. My husband left me,,,but he does not in his wildest dreeams hold the power over me......
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change; (Life, the Universe, other people)
courage to change the things I can;(me, my attitudes, my behaviour, my reactions)
and wisdom to know the difference
