Sorry to be blunt, and maybe that's my own sitch affectinhg my ability to watch other people stay stuck, but the answers you are looking for have not changed since they were first presented to you by many people...several times now. Until you actually DO some of the things suggested as "first steps", you probably won't make much progress.
I think you CAN do these things, it's just wether you WANT to or not. I really do think it's as simple as that Emily, I really do. I am thinking of you.
