Moving Along OR Just Spinning My Wheels?

[RBinBR]

Sorry ... I missed your question earlier ... found it now.

RB . . . do you really think I should ask for a "real" seperation (not talking and such) if there is a doubt about the OW. Won't that just shove him into to her arms???

Your H indicated that his A was about sex, and I very well believe it, because sexual attraction is what causes men to have A's in the majority of cases. (With women, it's the emotional attachment that develops before the sex, and with men is usually the other way around.) If your H really doesn't care about the OW (as I suspect), then you need to confront the fact that your H can find sex in a lot of places, and you don't have to worry about the OW any more than any other woman he meets out on the road. I know that isn't very reassuring, but I think it's the truth. Until his training is over and he can find a driving job that enables him to be home every night, I don't think you'll ever be able to feel confident that he isn't with another woman. Unless you're prepared to live the next two years of your life that way, I think you need some separation so that you can detach and improve your own life by focusing on letting your emotional needs be met through Christ, through real female friends, through family, and of course through your little girls. You need the space to work on you, and he needs the space too (whether he realizes it or not).