It's starting to come on hard.

I should probably just be mad enough to kick him to the curb, but instead I am hurt.

Stupid things are bothering me.
Like my picture keeps disappearing from his top 8 friends list, but his relationship thing still says "in a relationship".

Has he stayed with her "in a relationship" and just been toying with me?

When he went to get smokes (my friend works part time at the little store he went to) yesterday, my friend asked him what was going on.
Why I had called and left a voicemail asking her to stop by and why I sounded soo upset (like I was crying).
He said, "We're married aren't we allowed to fight."
She said, "She wouldn't have called me over a fight. It has to be more serious."
(Oh let me add here that this friend of mine and him were friends long before my H and I ever officially met so . . . it's different for her to talk to him than any of my other friends.)
He just said, "We were fighting."
So she asked him, "Well when do you have to head out to meet that guy."
He replied, "Later tonight." <--THAT'S AN OUT AND OUT LIE!!!
He knew damn well that he was meeting him at 9 o'clock this morning (they've had that same plan since he got back into PA on Friday) . . . he knew that she and I would talk about it.
Does he lie so much he doesn't even realize when he's lying????

I just don't know what to think.
I'd like to go back to the place I had reached with trying to just trust him.
But after all of this mess.
Are we just too screwed up?!?!?!
I could really use some advice to hopefully help me decide exactly what to do.
I know that focusing on it doesn't get me anywhere . . . but ignoring the problem won't help either.
I can GAL and work on this solution at the same time right?

RB . . . do you really think I should ask for a "real" seperation (not talking and such) if there is a doubt about the OW. Won't that just shove him into to her arms???
I don't want to make the wrong move.
I almost feel as if I am being tested by him.
I don't understand what he wants.