Anything YOU can do to distract YOU from your current sitch is what I consider getting a life. You need to do this so that you can clear your mind and not get stuck going around and around. Maybe it is going to the movies, knitting, crossword puzzles, reading a good novel, working out, gardening, etc... Find something that takes your concentration so you don't think about H and your sitch.
"Our life is what our thoughts make it."
Marcus Aurelius
