Ok, I'll reply to just a part of what you posted...
Quote: So he says, "Tell me what you're thinking . . . " I say, "Well PLEASE don't take this wrong. I'd be glad to move with you. I just want you to wait awhile until you're really sure you're going to stay. I don't want to get that far away and be stuck again . . only with no one to help."
He says, "Well I wasn't saying I wanted you to move this week. I'm talking down the road us moving somewhere."
Emily, trust me when I say that one of the hardest things to learn is what makes something "ok" to say/do and what makes it not ok. Sure, there are no rights and wrongs in all this, but if you're like the rest of us, you'll be constantly amazed at what you are slammed for, and what you are praised for.
After that build up, lol, I just want to tell you that I think you handled that PERFECTLY. You say STUPID EMILY STUPID, and I say yes, but only for thinking that what you said was foolish.
Here's why it was good. You directly and honestly expressed your feelings in a way that had NOTHING to do with him. You just told him you wanted to move forward but were afraid. Even what you said about wanting to be sure he was going to stay was fine.
The problem comes when you hold all this in and act out because of it, saying and doing things out of anger you build up inside you.
Expressing yourself in a non-confrontational way is GREAT and I think since it's something you've not done much of, it will feel a little strange to you. It's not like you constantly want to "express yourself" because that's more like nagging, but when he brings something up, you should respond with how you feel and not worry about how HE may react.
Please, understand that you have a RIGHT to feel the way you do, but not the right to just be pissy about it all the time. A saying comes to mind "Piss or get off the pot." You just took your first piss, now get off the pot and take care of those girls.
