IF, and I am not sure I read it right, you are really saying...
Quote: I just feel that what he did (the affair) was done to hurt me.
as something you currently feel then you need to get over it. Very rarely are affairs had to hurt the cheaters spouse. The worst that can usually be said is that they do it in SPITE of their spouses potential pain, but not in attempt to CAUSE it. Notice the difference. One view will allow you to not take it as personally.
