One of the first places we might want to try to do a 180 on is within ourselves. Inside of our heads, and in our thinking patterns.
How many times have we all been guilty of automatically knowing the reasons why someone is doing something? Have many times have we gone with the first "theory" that pops into our heads about a person's intentions? Have many times have we been guilty of trying to be "mind-readers", and KNOWN that the actions of another person is soley based on the intention of causing us pain?
Next time this happens to you, "try something different". Take that automatic thought, and try to envision what the total opposite of that thought might be. "Reframe" your thinking, do a "180" on it.
More often than not, we will find that the truth of the matter doesn't dwell at either extreme case, but usually falls somewhere in between.
