Let me start by saying that my understanding of the purpose of this board was for those in the throws of marital conflict/strife to reach out for help and comfort from loving souls as we strive to repair our damaged marriages through the grace of God. Your post is nothing but a vicious hurtful attack on someone you don't know. You claim to know me through the words of my H...remember, he was hurting over our separation (as I was!!!!!!) when he was communicating with you and the story you got was obviously skewed...as I have read here many times from other posters there are 2 sides to every story and the truth lies somewhere in between. You are being nasty and judgmental toward me based on the things he told you.
I love my H...and we are working through the pain of what has happened. People like you are stumbling blocks though...satan uses people such as yourself to attempt to undo the healing that God is working.
You don't know my H...you were a friend in a time of need. He lied to you as well!! He admitted to me that he slept with these women...and I have the proof as well...as I have stated in my string. So...why you would try to protect him by believing his lies and trying to convince me that I am crazy for thinking that his innocent friendships were nothing more.
You must be naïve to believe that he would give you an unbiased view of our relationship of the past 5 years…and to honestly tell you everything he had done and was doing during your ‘friendship’. What makes you think that he would be honest with you regarding his affairs…he knew they were wrong…you see him just as he wanted you to see him!
As far as the material that he spent hundreds of $$’s on…to “find out how to win me back”…How to get laid on the first date…how to get a woman to do anything you want…secrets to online dating…how to having an affair…just to mention a few…you really are naïve if you think that is the kind of material you purchase when you are trying to heal your marriage. He was reading material about healing our marriage as well…I think he just left out the details of his other resources during his friendly conversations with you!
Something in your post makes me question his honesty even more.
“And think about it, if he were actually having an affair, he wouldn't have been seeing more than one. They were only friendships. “
He told me that he wasn’t seeing them at the same time. Your post makes me wonder if that is another lie.
