TTH, I see where you are coming from. The trust will take time to rebuild. You are in a good place right now. It is going to take alot on your part to understand and eventually forgive. Your R is worth it, it is time to step back a little and give things a little time to heal. Accept the fact that at one time, he was lost, hurt and very confused. He needs to come about and become committed to only you. These things will take time. As others have said, I think the truth lies somewhere in between both stories. This is in the past.
"It does not matter, it is in the past"-Rafiki the baboon in the Lion King.
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To give up when all is against you is a sign of being weak and cowardly. --Chief Eagle, Teton Sioux