First time posting here...I've been reading alot and finally feel comfortable posting.

A little background. I found out about this site through my husband who was a very frequent poster for several months. One of his ways of making people feel sorry for him while he led his double life. I feel bad for all of you who supported him through his lies. Well, I guess it's my turn...I need help and support on how to get through the devestating and disgusting point that my life has gotten to.

We were separated for about 4 months (beginning late Oct. 05)with very little contact during this time. We began reconcilliation attempts the beginning of Feb and counseling soon after.

I recently (a couple of days ago) validated my intense gut feeling that he had been having affairs since the beginning of our separation. He continuously lied to me about the affairs until I had gotten so much evidence that he could no longer deny them. My traust is completely shot! Will I ever be able to trust him again??

I don't want a divorce...I want to heal and somehow trust again. How and where do I start. Please help...I feel like I'm losing my mind!!