Cat03, Thank you again...no insult taken...you have to be honest to help someone, right? If you read back in my sitch he is "supposed" to come next week for dinner. I will not bring it up and see watch and see if he is truly serious about coming...he will have to bring it up to me. If it doesn't happen, I won't mention it and I am going to need ALOT of support while I begin to go dark. Yes, what you said is what I was thinking...sometimes by changing your behavior it will "create" a crisis and I pray that it will be in favor of my family. Have a question about going dark, though...I sound stupid but I just honestly don't know...Do you tell them first the "it's too painful..." and then do it or do you just stop being the "friend" and "act as if" he's a casual neighbor or what? Sorry, I just honestly don't know. Amy
