Cathy, I hope that you and your family had a pleasant Thanksgiving. I'm very grateful that you returned at the time you did. There are many who are posting w/spouses returning home and a longer, harder journey is taking place--understanding and showing compassion to those who do return home.
Your posting was right on time this weekend. I hope everything works out for you. You struggled for quite a while, but look at you now! You are doing great and your h is finally getting his act together, slowly but surely.
Take care and don't be a stranger. Come back to visit again very soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.