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I try not to look backwards too much, my goal is to push forward. I had to heal myself first in order to get to where I am today. I had to let all my feelings, no matter what they were, come to the surface and then purge them. I had to take ownership of every little emotion or feeling I had or went through and not make them about anybody else but ME and then go from there! There were times when I thought I was done, but then realized I hadn't gone deep enough. You have to kill the root, not just chop something off at the surface. I believe I had to get myself to the spot I am today, having that peace inside that surpasses all understanding, in order for my husband to feel safe again, to want to try, to come back home.


Yes yes yes, this is ABSOLUTELY what the LBS needs to work for, I do believe this! Nicely articulated.
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And I can't change the past, it's there, it's history, it's in the books, it's time to move forward


I am thinking you can't even think about getting to this step 'til you're done w/ the one above.

So glad you're posting these thoughts, thank you again.

-- Karen