It's been so long since I've posted here and I don't recognize a lot of names, hopefully some will remember me. I was regular in 2003 and 2004 so I have many old posts floating around, my name then was "leftandnowhy."
Well after over three years of this, my husband is back home, the majority of his things are back home, ow is on her way out and we are on our way to restoration.
My husband is a changed man from when this first started, it's amazing in some ways. I read and reread HB's threads and they took me along the route that the MLC person follows and we are almost to the end.
This last year has been the big turnaround in our situation, him leaving again and me finding this unbelievable peace and happiness, well finding and accepting ME is what really happened. Putting boundaries in place, opening my mouth and talking about things that in the past we NEVER talked about, I learned how to walk through fear rather than let fear stop me from moving forward, learned how to confront issues rather than run from them, and not backing down from any threats or words and just letting go. I stopped being a people pleaser. I stopped letting another person's emotions control me or rule my life which was a biggee. My LIFE is totally opposite of what it was when this all began over three years ago..it is now peaceful and I have become the opposite, I am now at peace with myself and my life.
I have God to thank for all of this, prayers do work, prayers are answered, many, many have been answered in my life. Not in the way that I thought they would, I believe my prayers changed me and then that changed the way I looked at the world and changed the way my husband related to me.
I do remember you and I am so glad you posted. I have noticed lately on this board and another that there are more success stories starting to unfold. Many of these are coming after 3 - 5 years. I am so happy for you and I am so glad you shared this with us.
I remember you too! Strange that I had just posted FRIEND's thread here, reconciling after 5 years, and the very next one I saw at the top of the page was yours!
Hope you will have time to post more about how this all came about.
All good wishes to you and your h
Jaybeexxxx
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
Hi Love endures, I'm glad I can say welcome back. Though I feel like I've been on the bb forever, it has only been about 7 months on the bb and 8 dealing w/my MLC W. And congratulations to you and your H. We can all relate to what you have been through and only dream of reaching that stage ourselves.
You have much to share for so many of us who are still trying to cope w/the ride. I do hope you'll share the rest of your journey.
I am thankful for people like you that decide to not end the journey with us still here b/c the mate is home. I know when you are able to you will help many of us by sharing your story based on your experience. Thank you for thinking of us. Amy
There's someone on the board now who reminds me a bit of you - Rollercoasterrider in this forum - because her H does the same kind of back-and-forth, and her patience rivals yours - look in on her if you have a chance, eh?
