It's been so long since I've posted here and I don't recognize a lot of names, hopefully some will remember me. I was regular in 2003 and 2004 so I have many old posts floating around, my name then was "leftandnowhy."
Well after over three years of this, my husband is back home, the majority of his things are back home, ow is on her way out and we are on our way to restoration.
My husband is a changed man from when this first started, it's amazing in some ways. I read and reread HB's threads and they took me along the route that the MLC person follows and we are almost to the end.
This last year has been the big turnaround in our situation, him leaving again and me finding this unbelievable peace and happiness, well finding and accepting ME is what really happened. Putting boundaries in place, opening my mouth and talking about things that in the past we NEVER talked about, I learned how to walk through fear rather than let fear stop me from moving forward, learned how to confront issues rather than run from them, and not backing down from any threats or words and just letting go. I stopped being a people pleaser. I stopped letting another person's emotions control me or rule my life which was a biggee. My LIFE is totally opposite of what it was when this all began over three years ago..it is now peaceful and I have become the opposite, I am now at peace with myself and my life.
I have God to thank for all of this, prayers do work, prayers are answered, many, many have been answered in my life. Not in the way that I thought they would, I believe my prayers changed me and then that changed the way I looked at the world and changed the way my husband related to me.
