I'm not necessarily referring to anything sexual that gets her "excited". I'm talking about what things (in general daily life) have you done in the past that she honestly seems to respond positively to? That's why I threw in there that she gets "chatty".
See...my line of thinking here is. All those things you are doing that you mentioned (massages, notes, etc) that get your motor going....DON'T get hers going....because well, simply put you aren't filling her "love bank" with the right kind of currency. Kind of like.....being in Italy and trying to pay for your dinner with Yen instead of Lira.
Physical touch I suspect is one of your "currencies" (or love languages....but it's not one of hers. So find out what is her currency or love language....so you will be using the correct currency with her. I know that banking analogy isn't all that romantic....but doing what revvv's your engine on her obviously doesn't work.
You've mentioned that things are much improved over the weekends....why? What are you doing differently that she's responding favorably to? You've mentioned there have been lighter moods etc. There's a reason for it. You ARE most likely doing something different.
