you put me on the spot and to tell you the truth, i can not tell you what gets her going because well, she has never really told me. i mean, i do sit there and ask her to describe some fantasy, or describe ways that get her going, yet i never get anything concrete that i can sit there and follow or say, yeah, i know i can do this and it will seal the deal for us. and i have tried direct approaches, indirect approaches (in conversation, in passing, in letters -- asking her to respond via letter, etc.)
so i guess i got some detective work to do. i mean, when someone doesnt share with you what gets the motor running, you are left to guessing. So.... I pull out everything under the sun until i find that one thing - haven't found it yet, eventhough, as i said, this past week has been much improved, so ummmm - maybe i stumbled onto something?!
who knows, this just throws my brain into a tizzy because its very frustrating from my point of view
