You said (What i am doing for her: things like body massages, romantic baths (w/ candles and incense), house chores she might normally does, letters in the mail from an anonymous person, etc. are all things that really get me movin)
Ok...you've discussed that she lets you do things right? You just said the things you mentioned are things that get YOU movin. So what are things that get HER movin.
What I heard in that statement is that you speak your own love language to her....you don't speak hers. You do the things that YOU would respond to for her, expecting her to react the same way you would? Am I reading that correctly?
If so...what does she respond to? What are things that....when you do them she' voices her appreciation for, or gets chatty about, or appears happy about?
I'm thinking that sure, she may LET you do those other things because...heck maybe she feels entitled, maybe she feels like you want to do that so she goes with it. But (while many women would love the type of attention you give your W)....that attention doesn't trip everyone's trigger. Think back...what was something you did that she got excited about (in a nice way)?
