What i am doing for her: things like body massages, romantic baths (w/ candles and incense), house chores she might normally does, letters in the mail from an anonymous person, etc. are all things that really get me movin, especially when their is a response. Obviously, the things that involve body's touching (like the body massage) take me to another world.... where i want to take it further, almost always just because - uhh... i am young, dumb and full of --- you can figure that out
Now, if i were to stop on the body massages -- i would only get questioned if she wasnt ready to be done, but in most instance, i know i do it long enough to never have that happen. if in the event i do stop early (has happened), i simply explain why -- and thats because i know where this will lead from my perspective and quite frankly, i am not in the mood to be shot down or turned away, which is i know what will happen since you are laying there telling me how relaxed, i.e. tired, you are. AND I DO NOT DO THIS EVERY TIME TO GET WHAT I WANT.... THERE ARE TIMES I DO IT OUT OF LOVE....
in any event, i am only moving on because i realize i really dont have a choice in the matter. to destroy more then just our lives (the kids) over something like this, as i have said in the past, i can deal w/ this for their sake.
luckily for me, the last week has been improved in all aspects. i am trying to stay positive and reward the good behavior by doing little extra somethings for the W... and i can only say that if there was something i did not like, or could not handle or agree with, that i would state my case and move on.
i only hope she recognizes now what was missing, and as i said, it appears as if she has gotten it (at least a little)
