Re cobra In light of the first quote, could it be that BB does not think that she is withholding anything from you, rather that she thinks she is allowing you to express some of your “abundance” and in that way, ...............If I were in her shoes, I think I would have a hard time understanding your behavior too. Can you see this? The whole post is a possibility, a good part reality.
fantasy in your mind, that instead needs to be directed into honest verbal communication that she can understand? Cobra, I did say how I thought she was here mostly for the free-bees.
She said if I don't want to give freely and want something in return, I should quit. So I have quit doing some more things for a week.
Like I was telling N, it is not easy suppress this desire to feel like connecting with someone, but keep it in check.
Doesn’t she complain that this is a major problem? Yes she complains. Some of this withdrawing feels like P/A. Some feels necessary for self preservation. Some is better than trying to work things out but wind up in the same cheese-less tunnels again.
What I want is to talk with BB and not go back to "well You did x back in ???? or her often used "I's (she) is too old for that sort of thing, and another one of her "she always gets the short straw" and she isn't going to settle anymore.
I tell you cobra, that co-dependency crap and her idea people use her has done a number on her. Part of this week-end it was all about her and she needs to do her thing, and screw some other selfish people.
Right now I am going over ways to come out of withdraw w/o feeling like I am giving in or was being an a$$. Maybe I could word this last paragraph better but have to go for now.
