Do you show this bitter side to your wife or do you protect her from it?
I found that I had to get friggin mean before any progress started happening. Why, I don't know...I could analyze it to death and still be only speculating, as I'm not inside his head. However, letting it all hang out was absolutely critical. If I tried to protect him and soften the blow, he seemed to assume that it wasn't as bad as he originally thought and immediate action wasn't necessary. Sorry for the military tone--I am reading a play-by-play book of the Civil War and I'm glued to it. Never knew anything about fighting and battles before, though I was a history major and married to an ex-Marine. I didn't know how they lined up for battles, etc. Fascinating!
Anyway, my point is to let this bitter, fed up side of you show and don't wimp out and start worrying about her feelings. Let her feelings be what they are without you trying to control the outcome.
