Quote: however while I would love to suggest that he engage a ignore and plow type technique, done with extreme confidance and humor, the way he currently responds to her barriers with personalizing and logicalling I think its just going to escalate to serious breach of trust.
I don't think he should "ignore and plow" either. It really is a kind of tricky problem. I can't even come up with a "line" he could use that would be useful. However, the other thought I had was that if he could think about how he might react if he had a HD female partner who was trying to "toss his salad" (if that was something with which he might be somewhat uncomfortable), he might be able to come up with an empathetic response/solution. EVERYBODY has things that cross the line in terms of sexual ickiness for them and this varies a lot from person to person.
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