actually, i am enjoying the questions - nothing like a good converstaion? so, if you have more - keep'em cummin! hehe
so far, when i have put her on the spot the turn out has been disasterous. it is, i can not accept her for who she is, i dont respect her, etc. so i am not doing that
I guess anything is possible when it comes to touching (being too hard or soft).... i am sure i have my moments where it goes both ways.
i would like to think that i know how to do it, and do it right. i mean, i read enough material, watch enough stuff, and talk to enough people that it sounds like i got it. and i do well in translating things into action - (i am a technical oriented person by nature - or at least i feel like i translated actions well at one point in our R.
i cant let her hands lead - cause if i said here, take my hand, show me how to touch you - she would take my hand, slide it along the top, then slide it to the waist and say there, thats it. I like traveling south, yet i continually get caught at the border - WHY CANT SHE BE LIKE THE US AND BUSH and just let me thru?! (i couldnt resist this comic relief)
and yes, i have tried explaining it was more about the passion, the desire, the knowing what i thnk she is thinking on that level.... i felt there was improvement lately in all those areas, yet when it came down to pay off time, there was no payoff. Ok, i know that sounded shrewd...
fact of the matter -- we do communicate, and i thought we have communicated well. problem is something is not translating for the both of us. I realize i have my faults in this - i just cant figure it out cause i am doing what i think are very basic, natural things. obviously thats not the case.... ugh - again!
