hairdog: yes, i know the road is going to be rough.... its a road I was, and am still willing to take. The moment I proposed to her, I knew what that meant.
Right now, I feel like I am at a point where we need to teach an old dog new tricks (for both H & W); with that comes tension and a need for patience for both parties
i see your viewpoint on how the situation was approached and obviously my intent was not for it to be perceived that way. I am obviously struggling with how to express my unhappiness about the situation and come to a common ground. yet, i dont think the W sees this as a problem whereas I do. so the struggle continues. (I have not read any books or anything yet, but plan on it)
i realize she is not responsible for my happiness but i do believe that she has a responsibility to share with me and make an effort to meet my needs and grow with me, something I feel like is not happening. Almost like we are growing apart in this area because our priorities, likes/dislikes are different right now
The more I think about it, the more I feel like I am being narrow-minded AND the more I feel like I am the one that will have to sacrifice to make it work. I just don't think that is right (the sacrificing part) - I guess that is where my youth and negligence comes in? Either way, I know nothing will help or change until I get beyond that way of thinking
