Quote: Although I do think I'm getting better at detaching. None of the things he said; accusations, even the whole OW thing with the kids - hasn't caused me to be anything other than polite and courteous towards him. I think THAT is pissing him off, that I haven't reamed him out or anything. Merely stated my concerns quietly and respectfully.
Excellent. All his venom right now is him trying to push your buttons so you will behave in some undignified manner and he can say to himself "See!!! THAT'S why I'm leaving her!!!". Don't bite. You stay calm and rational, let OW get pushy and hysterical.
Other practical matters - - can't you send for a copy of D7's papers? - get all the paperwork for child support ready to go, so you can file it as soon as you leave. Even a couple of months without him paying the bills will sink you, so don't wait any longer than that. Funny, he didn't say anything about how it would be good for him to have a guarantee of visitation rights??? Doofus. - can you find a way to squirrel any cash away? Leftover grocery money, change jars, whatever? Even a couple hundred bucks might pay the groceries if you get in a tight spot. - and before you move out of that house, DO please consult with an attorney to make sure you don't have any rights to some of the equity in it. Seems unlikely, since you aren't married and H owns it, but some state's laws are funny, so don't ASSume.
