Most divorce attorneys will give free inital consultations, and even though you aren't married, it seems that many of the issues are the same - shouldn't you speak to one before you move out? I just can't believe there isn't some way around the DNA testing if he agrees he is the dad - just seems like an unnecessary expense.
Perhaps once you consult with an attorney and find out the best way to do this, you could get him to go with you to have the papers filed before you move out. Just approach it as "even though we aren't married, this is the same as a divorce in regards to child support and visitation. We both need to be protected - I need a guarantee of child support, you need a guarantee of visitation rights - so let's get that done now before I move so there won't be any confusion".
That way, he would A) have to face reality a little bit more about what all this means, and B) you'd still have some leverage to get it done (as in, I'm not moving until the support order is in place). Once you're out of the house, what motivation would he have to do his part of the paperwork??
