Well, Ellie, from what I've been able to find out, as we are not married I first have to go through paternity testing. This requires him being notified, so nothing I can do without his knowledge. Then, once paternity is established, then comes the child support issue. And trust me - I argued about this because he'slisted on their birth certificates. With 2 of 3 kids being born in NY, he had to sign an affidavit of paternity right in the hospital and have it witnessed before he could be put on the birth certificates. It appears, though, that NY doesn't even recognize their own paperwork as I was told I STILL had to go through the paternity testing for all 3. ( D7 was born in FL and yes, she's on the birth certificate as well, and yes, we went through something very similar down there. )
Of course, he has pleaded with me to keep it out of the courts. The amount in NY that I could find as average child support i 28% for 3 kids. We did a calculation and this would be equal to what he would pay in rent and some of the daycare costs. Of course, I have no intention of NOT taking it to through the courts if I move out. I hadn't done anything yet due to not wanting to alienate (?) infuriate (probably more accurate) him, because, like I said, due to the paternity testing he will be contacted.
Perhaps not the smartest decision I've made (of many, but who's counting ); it seemed rational at the time. I'm living here; he's paying everything; plus puts money in an account for me. It didn't seem necessary to begin any of this court process. Until now, it seems.
); it seemed rational at the time. I'm living here; he's paying everything; plus puts money in an account for me. It didn't seem necessary to begin any of this court process. Until now, it seems. 
