I am not saying involve the Police, but maybe the police being involved would wake SO up enough to see his part in this and that he needs help.
I am very worried about you and the girls. You have no job no means to support your self at this time. I honestly do not understand how you are supposed to move out of your home and live somewhere else. Won't SO be paying for that too? In which case won't he feel he has the right to be there when he wants?
I am sorry I can not offer any real advice. I am very worried about your health, mental and other wise. I wish I could do something for you.
Have you looked in to what kind of support he will be paying once you are really seperate? I really hesitate to say this NM, but have you looked into what kind of services may be available to you as far as assitance?
I jsut do not see how you can do this on your own. If you are truly fearful of him you do need to contact some authorities, maybe even a call to a woman's center . Atleast find out what is available.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011