Well, to be honest with you guys, I'm doing nothing. Looking at it today, I don't feel it's my problem. I will talk with his mom or dad, next chance I get, but I'm not going out of my way to call so as not to raise any alarms.
Ellie, thanks for your input, as always. RB, thanks for the web site. I spent a lot of time reading over it last night. NNP - thanks for your continued support.
I think it is time for me to be tough. I will move out. If God wishes it - I.E., if either of the rentals are offered to me, I will take the 1st one. Should they fall through, I will continue on as if I will be moving out locally and go back to work - just like I would be doing when living on my own. I'm going to keep looking for a rental in D7's school district (which starts 9/6) and enroll D3 into pre-school (which also has a deadline & runs the same as the school district schedule).
I can't keep up this seemingly eternal limbo life. I need to make the best decisions for me and the girls; today I strongly believe it to be for us to move out . SO needs to deal with his demons and his problems on his own. At this point, while I still love him and care about him very, very deeply, I don't think I'd be able to "get back" with him (not that he's indicated that or anything) unless he starts some kind of therapy. And, I really don't think he'll do it. So, what's that say?
And, I am very worried about him and his mental state. I also worry what will happen when we do move out. He was crying the other night saying he can't be alone; doesn't know how to be alone. So - yes, I am worried about that. I'm not a shrink - I don't know which is the best thing to do - move or stay.
When I read the detachment page, something jumped out at me:
"Being detached seems so cold and aloof. You can't be that way when you love and care for a person. It's either 100% all the way or no way at all."
I've struggled with this for such a long time and have not been able to figure out the correct formula of detaching without losing the love.
Well, as I'm typing this, the realtor (from my hometown) just called and said the owner decided to go with the other man who looked at the house, and she even said it was because of the fact that the house is for sale and this was a single man as opposed to a family. Damn.
I also see the rental application and credit report are back on the kitchen table - not filled out by SO (for the local rental). Guess I better get on it.
