Last night a phone call came in after 10. In our house, no one calls after 9 unless it's an emergency or trouble.
SO got the call while I was in the bathroom. I eavesdropped and heard him say a bunch of "yeses"; "OK's"; "I moved back home" and "she's already called me a couple of times today". After he got off, I came out and asked "who was that?". D7 was still up and he looked at her and said "I'll tell you later."
D7 goes to bed; SO goes to the bedroom. I go in and ask again who the call was from. He says he doesn't want to talk about it. I ask again. Again he says to just let it go. I go check the caller ID and see it's the County Sheriff's Office. WTF??? I go back to the bedroom and ask "Is she pressing charges against you or something? What's going on?" He finally says he's been acting nuts. Called her a whole bunch of times, etc, etc. I let him talk a few minutes, then I didn't know what to say. I say "I'm going on a cigarette run (guaranteed at least 1/2 hour for me to collect my thoughts) need anything?"
I go and come back. He gets up for a few minutes; we are in the kitchen. Only talked very little - I really didn't know what to say to him. He goes back to bed; I make a sandwich.
As I'm heading to the living room, he tells me to come to the bedroom and sit with him. Asks "Am I that crazy? Am I that bad that I push people to this?" I said "Yes. You never stop." He asks, "Do I get mean?" I said "Yes. Remember when I called the cops on you? You wouldn't stop, SO. You just wouldn't stop. And you go on until you break someone." He started crying. Says "No reason for you to move out now." I say - "Yes, there's still every reason for me to move out. Especially now."
Anyway - none of that really matters. Today, I see that his mother's account has an email. We set up an account for her years ago for when she's here; she rarely uses it, I usually go in and delete the junk out of it - usually when I see there's mail or whatever. Not very often - usually every couple of months.
Today, something tells me to check it. The previously stored password has been changed. (Eyebrows go UP) Now, don't freakin' ask me how I did this, but a hunch gave me an idea and I typed in a guess at a password (that SO has used in the past) and it worked. I check the old/deleted/sent boxes. From what I can figure, SO emailed OW last night while I was out...from his mothers account, pretending to be the mother and asking what was going on. The OW answered her this morning, saying she'd write more this afternoon; requesting her phone # to call her and speak with her directly. The, ahem, "mother" then emails back with a song & dance about not giving it and a bunch of other blah, blah, blah - even so much as including that he's not acting right and wasn't sure if it was because of her (ow) or me & the kids moving out. (I unsent this, BTW.)
My point here, I guess, is what the hell do I do???? Has SO gone that far over the edge?? These are the actions of someone with some serious mental issues. Besides the fact that last night, even after the call, and today - he's trying to get me into bed with him!!
And, I swear guys, the last few months - this was never the SO I used to know. I don't know what's happened to him. The double life, the lies, the stress contributing to his physical illnesses - I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to get scared. Not scared for my life - but scared for him. His mental balance is disintegrating rapidly. Should I intervene somehow? Do I let him crash & burn?
I have no idea what to do.
Oh - and PS - I'm pretty sure the whole pregnancy thing was just bullsh!t from OW - used as some kind of scare tactic. I did some checking, call it snooping, but whatever - I needed to know some things, and there's pictures of her on her friends website drunk, and with pix of alcohol in her hands. I doubt she's pregnant. Just another immature kid stunt.
Who knows - the mentality of these two nut jobs - maybe they really do belong together. Crazy is as crazy does.
