Yeah, SO is really messed up. I can't help him, he has to help himself. And, while I intellectually know this, it still hurts. And, you're right too - that in some way, I have a (very small) sense of relief that he made the decision and didn't dump it on me to make.
However, this is my line in the sand. And he doesn't understand that. I know, don't rule anything out - but I have to. For MY sanity. For MY peace of mind. For the best interests of moving forward and letting it all go so I can begin a new life without always wondering about the woulda, coulda, shouldas.
I know I'm not a failure. It's just feels that way sometimes. As far as checking in here, lol, I feel the same way. Even if I don't post much to others, I read along and empathize and maybe, with a different perspective now, lol, I can offer more. Coming here to learn became a little part of my life.