Quote: Yeah that's how it seems. She's tapped out and proud of it. I suppose that's what gets my goat, the pride and bragging about her disconnectedness with her kids, while also simultaneously bragging about us.
I think there are a lot of reasons why she might behave in this manner. She might put a high priority on not being intrusive. She might not like your H or your in-laws and therefore not want to involve herself further in relationship or competition with them on issues involving the children. Being grandmotherly might make her feel old. If she has older batches of grandkids she might have already burnt out on grandmotherly activities. She might actually be refocusing her energies on finding a new mate (Maybe you inherited your HD from her-LOL) and psychologically can't mate and nest, even at one remove, simultaneously. Maybe your kids are all at an age younger than the kid age she prefers and she'll start spending quality time with them when they're 10 and more like young companions than babies.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
