Just curious about something, because a thought came to mind in reading how much your BF does for you. You say he is an AOS person, but with his controlling mother, I’m wondering how much he does as an AOS and how much he does out a some sort of conditioning imposed by his mother. Perhaps he does all the repairs because he is used to doing this as a way of avoiding his mother. Now it is so much a part of him he does it instinctually for you, which is great.
But I wonder if he has some deep repressed resentments toward his mother that keep him in a low level sort of depression, always watchful of his mother’s judgment. I know it sounds like projection on my part and maybe even a little paranoid, but I can’t help but think his drive and ED problems somehow have root with his mother. Its almost like he is so well trained and conditioned to think of others first and himself last, that he can’t accept any kind of self gratification and has almost become immune to EC, sort of robotic-like, kwim?
