HP, Ain't it good to know that you're "smokin' hot"?

I gotta admit, when I get busy with a project I sometimes forget to take care of the heart as well. Sometimes it is hard to focus on more than one thing at a time. I suppose it's a guy thing. It's up to you to give him the reminders that the R is partly his responsibility too, and that it needs consistent nurturing in order to maintain the blossoms so to speak. In a non-nagging way, of course. Its those little things that make the R worthwhile.

Ya know, maybe get the kids to pitch in too. It'll go a bit slower than you doing it alone, and you might have to re-do some things, but including them will make the whole thing more fun for everyone, and the kids will feel special for getting to help out. For example, a couple weeks ago I had a bit of restoration work to do on our lawn tractor. S2 "helped" me with it, (and probably learned a swear or two ). He mostly played with the socket wrenches while I was working. He had a ball, and undoubtedly felt important. Yeah, it took probably twice as long with him there, but on the other hand had he not been "helping" me, I wouldn't have gotten it done at all because I would have been inside watching him study entropy with his toys. Plus, he got some one-on-one QT with Dad.

Whatever, the big thing is to make sure that you two spend some QT together, and carve it out of the day no matter what else you have to give up to do it. Don't let it become a groundhog day for you. I don't envy you doing the kitchen remodel at all. The kitchen is the center of the house, and with it all torn apart... well it is just hard to live like that. He's undoubtedly feeling a ton of pressure to get it done, even if no one has said anything about the inconvenience of it being all apart. That's why I suggested working with him on it (perhaps some evenings when the kids are in bed), because if you work together you are at least getting some QT and it relieves a little bit of the pressure if you are both invested in it, KWIM?

I've pretty much come to the conclusion that most of us have at least shades of all the LL's. Had you asked me two years ago, I would have said mine is 100% PT. Now, I see little bits of all of them....well maybe not the gift giving, I still don't get that one...in me as well as in MrsGGB. I bet your are right, have some QT and the romance will flow from it....heck, you'll have a new kitchen to christen shortly, might as well have a few practice rounds before it is done