Quote: Couch it however you want, but this is pretty much saying there is no hope.
Quote: Romantic affairs lead to a great many divorces, suicides, homicides, heart attacks, and strokes, but not to very many successful remarriages.
Yes - but no hope for THE AFFAIR RELATIONSHIP, not the married relationship.
Quote: Gee, that makes me want to try REALLY hard to fight for my marriage in the face of ending up dead for a variety of reasons.
Nope - you're not going to end up dead. If you were, it would have happened during the most intense emotional period of your personal crisis. This IS statistical information. You have to understand that statistical information is always going to make the outlook of a situation appear fixed. It's only because it comes out of history, which is fixed.
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Quote: No matter how many sacrifices you make to keep the love alive, no matter how many sacrifices your family and children make for this crazy relationship, it will gradually burn itself out when there is nothing more to sacrifice to it.
Um, again, I don't really see how this can be taken as anything other than saying there is no hope. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN OR YOU'LL BE CONSUMED BY THIS MONSTER it is saying to me. I see no other way to really interpret this. It's pretty clear.
Again, this is about the affair relationship. This is saying that this relationship is so intrinsically flawed that it can't survive on its own merits, but rather it requires sacrifices to keep feeding the dramatic romantic love in order to keep it alive, and even then, it WILL burn out.
Quote: Again, no mention of making a CHOICE here, just that pain and suffering WILL BE THE RESULT no matter what you or anyone else does. You're powerless to stop it.
IF you continue the A, this will be the outcome. Any questions?
Quote: I guess you're right. I CHOOSE to be an optimist and as such, usually shun such dark language to describe the place we're in. I suppose I like my hell with a little more fire and light.
Keep on leading by example.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
