Couch it however you want, but this is pretty much saying there is no hope.
Quote: Romantic affairs lead to a great many divorces, suicides, homicides, heart attacks, and strokes, but not to very many successful remarriages.
Gee, that makes me want to try REALLY hard to fight for my marriage in the face of ending up dead for a variety of reasons. Somehow I don't see much risk of death in what I am doing right now, but then again, as you say, I choose to see things differently.
Quote: No matter how many sacrifices you make to keep the love alive, no matter how many sacrifices your family and children make for this crazy relationship, it will gradually burn itself out when there is nothing more to sacrifice to it.
Um, again, I don't really see how this can be taken as anything other than saying there is no hope. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN OR YOU'LL BE CONSUMED BY THIS MONSTER it is saying to me. I see no other way to really interpret this. It's pretty clear.
Quote: Then you must face not only the wreckage of several lives, but the original depression from which the affair was an insane flight into escape.
Again, no mention of making a CHOICE here, just that pain and suffering WILL BE THE RESULT no matter what you or anyone else does. You're powerless to stop it.
Since I am a FIRM believer that context means a HELL of a lot, I will acknoledge that this text may be out of context and the REST of the article may contain all that stuff about choices and hope.
The way I read it here, on it's own, it paints a bleak picture with VERY little hope of salvation and even if there is hope, mentions NOTHING about it, or why anyone in this kind of sitch should have any.
I guess you're right. I CHOOSE to be an optimist and as such, usually shun such dark language to describe the place we're in. I suppose I like my hell with a little more fire and light.
