Quote: I'll take a middle ground and say that I think some affairs happen in marriages that aren't really bad but find themselves at a really bad point. . . .(which my W hated). . . There were serious issues in our marriage to be sure, but the biggest reasons that the A happened, in my opinion, were due to temporary circumstances. I suspect that other sitches fall into this category as well.
I think I get your point, RB, regarding temporary sitches. However, I think this has more to do with personal perspective than anything else. You can choose to recognize what you can change and accept what you can't, or you can HATE that which you can't change. I think that the latter perspective, one which makes you the victim, really disables you. You feel entitled to better than what you have. You feel powerless. You are just waiting to be rescued. . . . Almost all of life's situations are or could be temporary. Your outlook determines how you look at these sitches. I think it has more to do with the way the wayward chooses to look at their world.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
